I’ve told him that I want things to stay just the way they are. We are very happy together, so I want to just appreciate what we have.I just celebrated my 60th birthday, and he took me away for two beautiful weeks in Arizona. He has been so romantic, and he said it was the best New Year’s he’s had in many years.When the wife died, Elaine never gave dating him a thought. And without being frivolous, I told her if her friend didn’t write back, then her friend had granted Elaine approval to move forward with him.I would like to hear from widowers and women who have dated widowers regarding their feelings about dating after the loss of a spouse.My concern is that he will never commit because I am the first woman he’s dated since the loss of his wife.He has never said he cares for me, but he always acts like we are “together.” He is so wonderful to me.I’m really falling in love with him but don’t want to scare him away.How long does it usually take a man to feel he is ready for a commitment after being widowed?
And then, some time later, reality hits the widowers. Last week, a woman named Elaine asked for my advice regarding a widower she’s dating. He finally revealed that his hints about his feelings for her had been ignored. She was shocked and reluctant to date him, not wanting to jeopardize their friendship and feeling she was betraying her deceased friend. Then, I told her to stop focusing on the guilt, and start focusing on not letting him get away to another woman, that he would eventually go elsewhere if they don’t hook up because he wants and seems ready to love again.Upon inspection Litsa and I found the question to be equally as awful and, although the advice columnist answered gently and with tact, we thought we’d like to take a stab at it ourselves.Okay here goes: “DEAR AMY: I have been dating a widower for almost two months.I just don’t know if he is really ready for his next life.Sometimes I wonder if I am just a “test run.” —Worried” Okay stop!
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