Women have been told they are helpless and dependent for so long that we have begun to believe it—and to object vociferously when we are not treated as such.If men whose company we enjoy don't assume we want to be their wives and thus propose in short order, we consider it "an insult" (in the approving words of the sexpert-rabbi Shmuley Boteach) and declare ourselves aggrieved. Women have grown dull while men have grown smug, offering their hands (when they do) as one might bestow a winning lottery ticket: "There you go, honey, I guess I've made your life." Having given that, they too often feel they have given all; they've done their bit in the kingdom of relationships, and their companions may now live happily ever after.
It's not exactly breaking news that humans are biologically geared to seek out mates.You can’t control others but you can control yourself. There’s nothing so desirable as the one thing you’re not allowed to have.Only they generally don't, as the books and studies make all too clear. In fact, they often court the square opposite of security, as Diane Shader Smith learned when she began interviewing women for Undressing Infidelity.They court risk; they court intensity, variety, novelty, and disaster—very much like men.