You’ve tried talking to him about the problems with your relationship. You have a lot of empathy for him and think that with your love he will change, if only you hang in there long enough Now, I don’t know your particular situation and cannot tell you if your boyfriend falls into the abuser category. Educate yourself about emotional or psychological abuse. Now, editing your thoughts and second-guessing yourself has become second-nature. You’ve become an expert in trying to see the world from his point of view.Maybe they complain about how often you talk to your brother on the phone, or say they don't like your best friend and don't think you should hang out with her anymore.Examining Their Behavior Watching Their Interactions Freeing Yourself From a Controlling Personality Community Q&A Those who try to control other people are, simply put, neither nice nor respectful. They are likely to put the brakes on your leading a fulfilling, independent life if you're in constant close proximity to them. There’s a thin line between a loving boyfriend and a controlling boyfriend.But unknowingly, this subtle urge to help our partner lead a better life could turn into a dangerous obsession for all the wrong reasons.If he’s ever raised his hand on you for the smallest of reasons or uses force to tell you what to do, it’s obvious he belongs to this type.He may love you a lot, but his urge to dominate your life could end up hurting you forever.
" Do any or all of these former partners remind you of someone in your life?While those signs are indeed troubling, there are many additional signs that might show up quite differently.Controlling people use a whole arsenal of tools in order to dominate their partners— whether they or their partners realize what's happening or not.Consequently, you find yourself walking on eggshells trying to avoid problems, but it never seems to work. Interestingly, while he belittles you in private, he may be quite the charmer in public. Don’t assume that things will get better on their own.You feel a knot in your stomach whenever he is around you. This is extra confusing, because none of your friends or family are able to validate what you’re experiencing. Often, they tend to get worse over time and might even cross over into the realm of physical attacks.
We gravitate to people who let us do what we know how to do -- whether positive or negative -- people who are familiar to us.